Wednesday, 6 October 2010

Well here I am, it's 9.00 pm and I'm having a brief breather before starting the ironing.

Things deteriorated with Nan and Granddad. A carer came, yesterday, peeled some spuds and then went. "Are you not going to make them some tea?", asked my Dad. Apparently not. Then they had no-one with them over night, even though we were promised someone would come. So my Dad's on the phone for an hour and a half. So Nan fell in the night, because whoever stayed wasn't being vigilant.

So there was a big meeting this morning with the social services and the district nurses. Care will be provided for 4 nights out of 7, which means family will have to stay over. My dad will help with meals but he doesn't feel it is appropriate for him to be taking his mother to the bathroom in the night and any related personal care. I agree, a man shouldn't be caring for a woman's personal needs like that. So that leaves me, my auntie and my mum. My mum is struggling to keep on top of looking after my grandma (her mother - my nan and granddad are my dad's parents). Grandma needs daily care. So that leaves me and my auntie.

Pray for us. Auntie isn't well and I am EXHAUSTED. I am glad to help, I really am. I can't bear to think of my nan and granddad struggling through the night. But I'm not sure how I am going to cope with travelling out after tea (they live about 45 minutes away), leaving hubs with the girls and then returning in the early hours so that hubs can go to work.

I really don't know how this is going to work. But God is in control.

Grammar point: I really am trying to be consistent with capitalisation of nan, granddad, dad and mum, etc. But I know I'm failing miserably. But you love me even so don't you?


  1. Yes I still love you.

    It is exhausting just thinking about what this will take for you.

    You will be in my prayers.

  2. I'm so sorry my dear friend, I've been praying for you and your family and will continue to do so.

  3. It isn't easy to care for more than one family. I could not do it and that was over 25 years ago. Mom was in nursing home after her second broken hip and my dad moved in with me. I was the only family around then and my sons and I did it for 6 weeks. Oh the horror stories I could tell. But when he tried to leave the car while I was going 60 some miles an hour on the highway I knew I had to for his safety. He went to the same nursing home as my mom.
    Capital letters are grammer not love---don't worry about it.

  4. Thank you so much for your love and prayers. It means a lot to me.


  5. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandparents, and their difficulty with home care. I will continue to keep all of you in my prayers, dear friend...

  6. You are in my prayers - and the rest of the family too - it is so draining both physically AND emotionally. May God give all of you all the strength you need to cope through this difficult time - love, blessings and hugs xxx

  7. Oh yikes! So very difficult :(. Praying for you.